One thing that come to mind when we think about the holidays is family stress. It doesn’t matter who your family is, each one has that one person or whole household that seems to cause tension or conflict. Wouldn’t it be great if you had a little tip book on how to get through it all with ease and joy? Well as a family business that has our own family dynamics to deal with, we’ve learned some ways to enjoy the holidays without compromising our values or losing the beauty of the holiday because of conflict.
Don’t argue the holidays away. Enjoy your family. Here’s how:
Don’t sweat the small stuff. I know you’ve heard it before, but in the grand scheme of things, does the issue at hand really matter? Conversations are going to come up that irk you, but there’s a good chance that in the big picture, the situation isn’t life altering or going to make or break your life. Set it aside. Enjoy the ride.
See past the exterior. Many times, things bug us simply because we’re focused on what we see. Many times this has to do with clothing, hair cut or color and even lifestyle choices. But under the seen, there is a real person worthy of love; regardless of your opinions. If they were suddenly struck with a life threatening illness, would your feelings about their choices matter so much, or would you savor the time you have?
Underlying causes. All isn’t as it seems. When people act angry or argumentative, there’s often something deeper going on inside them. Perhaps their job or family life is wearing on them … or they’re just unhappy. Be loving to them. Inspire them.
It’s not your duty. Inspire, but don’t feel like you have to fix or heal. As much as you’d like to see your family push through a challenge or grow, you can’t do it for them. Nor can you lecture them enough to see it your way. Be honest, give advice when asked, but more importantly, be an example. (Can’t be an example? Well, then you are the first person to work on, right?)
Small portions. If, in spite of the above, there are still people that are difficult to be around, love in small portions. No one said you need to spend the whole time with one person. Spend a little time, ask a few questions, show love and move on. You aren’t asked to be a martyr.
Know your home. Yes, some people will bother and annoy you. You’ll wonder how you ended up so sane in a family of crazy people. Oh well. We’ve all been there. Know who you do relate to and enjoy those even more.
Boundaries. Be honest with yourself. If there are people in your family or friends circle that are unhealthy and out of control in their addiction, anger or such, it’s ok to pass on the festivities if that’s what’s necessary. Be sure you’re doing it out of respect for yourself and others and not just judgement.
Remember that who is around you doesn’t determine who you are. They do however, invite you to be the best version of yourself possible. So as you prepare for the coming holiday gatherings, remember that it’s your job to decide how you will enjoy it or not. Also remember that Ontario Bakery is here to make your holidays even sweeter. If you’re looking for a delicious way to end your holiday meal or party, please call Ontario Bakery. We specialize in custom baked cakes and goods for all celebrations.